Mother’s Day for Birth Moms

Birth Moms on Mother’s Day

Mother’s day can be difficult for adoptee families and birth moms alike. Adoption can make many family oriented holidays. There are so many complex feelings and traumas associated with the holidays themselves and the events leading up to making them so difficult. Here are some things to keep in mind for the birth mothers in your life. 

There’s a holiday for them too

In the 1990s, birth mothers day was created a week before mother’s day to recognize the experience of birth mothers, and the impact giving birth to a child they gave up has on their lives.

This is a hard day (and weekend) for birth moms

This weekend, although filled with flowers, cards, and fun memories for a lot of families, can be incredibly difficult for birth mothers. It can be a triggering time regarding the physical birth, the memories they are missing out on with the child, and the feeling of being forgotten or not worthy of the title ‘mother.’ 

Take time to consider them 

As someone who has a birth mother and knows people with birth mothers in their lives, I find it important to take a second to think about (or pray) for the birth mothers experiencing a positive or negative mothers day.

Respect the experience

Every birth mother’s story is unique to them. There are a variety of reasons a person may not be able to raise the child they’re carrying. I try to empathize with those various situations and understand that giving up a child is no simple task, voluntary or otherwise.